Filed under: Boys, Feminist Rants, books | Tags: books, Boys, feminism, feminist, Feministing, Lori Gottlieb, love, marriage, women
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That's right...just compromise...you can't do any better...
Ladies! When you get a little older…and you still aren’t married…it’s time to just SETTLE FOR ANY MAN THAT WILL ACCEPT YOUR OLD ASS!
Really?
The reason I am single now is because I refuse to SETTLE. I’d rather be alone than settle for some loser. And this woman has the NERVE to call herself a feminist?
Really?
I’m all for feminism. I’m a feminist. What feminism is, though, is a social movement about equality. Feminism never told women, “You can have it all in a partner!” But what women did was — and I’m guilty of this as well — [they said] “Oh, I’m independent and I’m self-sufficient and if a guy comes along that’s great but I don’t need a man. I can have it all!” And we took all these ideas and we said, “That’s feminism!” That’s not feminism! Feminism is about do we get equal pay? Do we have equal opportunities? That’s feminism. We attributed these other things to feminism. Feminism never had an opinion about dating, other than [to say] you should be an equal.
She is redonkulous. There are millions of feminist that are married, date, have kids, etc. That statement is pure ignorance. Actually, I think she’s stupid. Maybe I should come up with a stupid idea and write a book about it! I’ll make MILLIONS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I refuse to compromise. You should too. Don’t be a jerk and expect too much, but don’t settle for less than you deserve!
Filed under: Feminist Rants, Politics...kinda. | Tags: abortion, advertising, feminism, Focus on the Family, Football, Jaclyn Friedman, Jezebel, Planned Parenthood, Scott Fujita, Super Bowl, The Nation, Tim Tebow, white men, women
There’s been a controversy brewing all week about a Super Bowl commercial. I’m sure that most of them will be offensive (complaining about women or women in next to nothing), but there’s one in particular that has some feminist in a fit.
Focus on the Family has produced a Super Bowl ad that features Florida Gators quarterback Tim Tebow and his mother. Many moons ago the doctors told her that she should abort the pregnancy. She said no! And look at what she got! Now…we should all follow her lead!
Jaclyn Friedman has an article over at The Nation that explains what I’m thinking about the whole situation.
While it’s easy to see how this spot breaks new and unwelcome ground for the big game, the (more troubling) fact is that in many ways, the Tebow/Focus on the Family ad is just a new expression of a longstanding Super Bowl tradition in which women are valued only in direct relation to their usefulness to male athletes and fans.
She goes on to comment about the negative portrayal of women in Super Bowl ads. A larger percentage of the people watching this game, watch for the commercials alone. Is there any other time that people WANT to watch commercials? Hardly.
For decades, these spots have appeared to target either 12-year-old boys, or men with the equivalent level of emotional maturity. This, despite evidence that the actual Super Bowl audience is now nearly 40 percent female.
Agreed. I’m a football watcher and you all know that. Some of the commercials are pretty offense and most of the time people don’t pay enough attention to the messages in them. Ladies, you do realize that while we’re buying jerseys and game tickets…the people behind football don’t give a damn about us? They are catering to the men in our lives. You are an annoying, nagging girlfriend or a oversexed, scantily clad part of football season. That’s what it boils down to.
I hate to quote Jaclyn throughout this entire post, but she’s got some great points:
Enter the Focus on the Family ad, thirty seconds of squeaky-clean “family values” that make the astonishing claim that women shouldn’t have abortions because they might be gestating a future male sports star. There’s a lot wrong with this argument, not the least of which is the statistical reality that it’s significantly more likely that women who choose to carry their fetuses to term will give birth to rapists or murderers than to Heisman Trophy winners. But what makes it such a perfect fit for the Super Bowl is its blatant cynicism about the role of women when it comes to the big game. It’s not enough that we be always available, conventionally beautiful sex-objects. Now we have a CBS-sanctioned ad telling us that if we get knocked up as a result of all that (relentlessly heterosexual) sex, we have only two choices: have the baby, or become an enemy of Football Nation. Though perhaps we should be grateful that Focus on the Family’s commercial adds a third acceptable role for women in Super Bowl advertising: alongside available hottie and repulsive shrew, we apparently can now be hero-incubators.
So…
I’m all about freedom of speech. They have the right to run a commercial, but where is our pro-choice commercial? Here’s one that you probably won’t see during the Super Bowl:
Scott Fujita has also had some things to say about the ad and similar issues. You can read about here over at Jezebel.
So, what do you guys think? Should the Focus on the Family ad be shown when they denied the ad for a gay dating site because it doesn’t fall under the guidelines for commercials shown during the big game?
I think they need to show both if they’re going to show one and deny other groups the right to have a commercial. I’m tired of right-winged fanatics rubbing their beliefs in my face. Seriously.
Filed under: Happiness, Randomness | Tags: Happiness, Photos, Wet, Rubi Malone
I’m stll mad about the photography class, but I am trying to lighten my mood. (I was so mad that I didn’t eat dinner and I’m still not hungry.)
Rubi Malone is a badas mofo. I love this game. 
I wish I could just do whatever I wanted. Oh how I wish I could…
Filed under: work
!@#$%^&*
That is how my job makes me feel.
I want to take a photography class. It is Tuesday nights from 7:30-9:30, for 8 weeks.
A girl that I work with has every Tuesday evening off. She is working on her Bachelor’s degree and is a full time employee.
Apparently, I have to request to only work Tuesday mornings and HOPE that the stupid scheduling system decides it wants to give me the time off.
So…why do we have a tuition reimbursement program, if we can’t even take off one evening a week to take classes? WHY should I have to go part-time when I am trying to make the most of the time I have off? WHY wouldn’t this major corporation want me to better myself? WHY wouldn’t they want me to have an outlet for the stress that they cause me on a daily basis? I will be a better employee if I have time to relax and enjoy myself. I will be a better employee if I can improve my mind through education. WHAT IS THE BIG F*CKING DEAL IF THE STORE ALREADY CLOSES AT 8!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!??????????????????????????/
As you can see…I am frustrated. I am doing my best to make the best out of a shitty situation. It would mean the world to me if I could take this class and find a new creative/stress outlet. I’m slowly losing my mind. At 26 I feel like an old person. There are so many things to learn.
Did you guys know that a GREAT way to achieve intellectual stimulation OUTSIDE of work is to take on more responsibility AT work?!?! (Sarcasm) That is my managers suggestion to my dilemma. There is nothing intellectually satisfying about having alarm codes and keys. Nor does that solve my dilemma…I NEED SOMETHING TO STIMULATE ME WHEN I AM NOT WORKING.
WTF!
I guess I will go READ another book since that is all I am allowed to do.
At some point I am going to forget how to talk to SMART people since all I do every day is help dumb people and fix their problems.
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Hey, DINO!
I wanna fly away...
If you like books and/or red phone booth look at THIS!!!
I really haven’t had much for the last few days. I’m trying to find a good digital camera, b/c I’m taking a photography class in May! YAH!
Other than that…I bought a new comforter set for my bedroom and a matching rug. Oh and some picture frames. It’s about time I tried to make it feel like MY room. Now we just need to get rid of the HIDEOUS blue paint on the walls…..haha
Oh and I had a rather disturbing conversation with a friend the other day. I have never met anyone quite like him. To some he might seem “mysterious” but I call bullshit!
Do you have someone in your life that you don’t really KNOW? They’ve been around forever, but you really don’t know very much about them. That’s him. He’s going to be mad that I’m writing about him, but the whole situation is kind of annoying. It’s time to vent. 
I’m not the type to PRY. I try to give CUES…and most of my real friends know that they can talk to me about ANYTHING. Sometimes I give TOO MUCH information about myself, just so that they will know it’s ok to open up. This friend…is SILENT. I spend the majority of the time TALKING and I never get much in return. Honestly, I feel like I’m not given the opportunity to be a good friend because he never SAYS anything to me.
I express this concern and he says I’m high maintenance, like I’m one of his little girlfriends or something. THAT was a low blow. I am making a conscious effort to let him know that I want to get to know him better. It’s a shame that after almost 5 years I don’t know very much about him. If he didn’t want to open up, he shouldn’t have found his way back into my life. And yes…I’m still annoyed with him BUT he still has a special place in my heart.
ANYWAY…I’m going to bed. If you guys can give me some advice on REALLY good digital cameras, I will be forever grateful.
Filed under: Feminist Rants, Randomness | Tags: backlog, cartoons, cunt, elephants, everydaypeoplecartoons.com, hot chocolate, LAPD, Morgan Freeman, rape kits, tampon crafts, tamponcrafts.com
I’ve been browsing the “net” while I enjoy my snow day…and I found some interesting/disturbing things. Ch-ch-check ‘em out!
I am all about a woman embracing her bodily functions and her cunt, but THIS is kind of gross AND FUNNY. blaaaaaaaaaaaaah I can only imagine the reactions this would get.
I recall posting a little something about the back log of rape kits that need to be tested by the LAPD. Well, apparently that is not going to happen. 
I bet they would get right on that if there was a sudden rape epidemic and the victims were men…especially white men. ugh.
THIS made me laugh:
and THIS was even better:
I always knew he was AWESOME and FUN!
Then there was THIS:
Yummy Yummy Hot Chocolate!
And this site is very cute. Here is a preview. If you decide to go to the site, click on ALL CARTOONS. Then you can stroll through them.
Agreed!
Keep telling yourself that sister...Just be FREE! DO WHO YOU WANNA DO! haha
The reason I won't get married
Wish I could do this...
I don't do crunches because I'm a great friend!
Ok, I’m done for now. I hope you were at least able to chuckle at some of these.
Filed under: Make-up
I’m a nut…but it’s the one kind of makeup that is so vesatile. I need to take a picture of my eyes right now. I’ve always loved eyeshadow, but lately it’s my newest form of self-expression.
AWESOMENESS
Pink and Purple
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Rainbow Brite!
Filed under: Boys, Feminist Rants, family | Tags: egalitarian, feminism, marriage, Patriarchal bullshit, patriarchy, tradition, traditional
“Men that view women “traditionally” make more money.”
I was doing some “research” for this little post and I read that quote.
WTF does that even MEAN?
“Men who have brains from the 1950’s make more money.”
That sounds better.
This topic burns me alive. I HATE when people say that women “BELONG” at home and men should be the “lord and master.”
The reason I’m even thinking about this is because I just met a girl described her husband as traditional.
Let me give you some examples of why he’s “traditional”:
1. She is required to get up at 5:45 am because that is what time he gets up for work.
2. She is required to have all of her “chores” done before he comes home from work. Since she began working with us, she has to do them before she goes to work.
3. The cleaning of their APARTMENT is solely her responsibility.
Hmm…she’s 19 and I think he’s 20 or so. They’ve been married for a year and it looks to me like she has a LONG marriage ahead of her. Of course, someone told me about this because they knew I would get SO SO SOsosososososo mad about it. First, I wanted to slap her. Second, I wanted to slap him. This is 2010! She has a job! She’s a HUMAN, not a robot!
Poor girl. She has no idea. People hold on to “traditions” (better known as patraichal bullshit) that really mean NOTHING at all. I could understand if he was doing the yard work and she was cleaning the inside, but they live in an apartment.
Patriarchy sucks and I’m mad even thinking about it. My heart goes out to her because I get the vibe that she’s scared of her husband. She didn’t explain it as if she felt it was something she enjoyed. It’s more like that’s what expected of her, so she does it even though she’d rather do something else. Sleeping in would probably be NICE.
uuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuughhhhhhhhhhhhh. The whole thing shouldn’t bother me as much as it does. It’s none of my business, but it’s ridiculous and I want to knock some sense into both of them. I thought marriages were supposed to be partnerships.
If a “traditional” guy comes my way with his patriarchal bullshit, I’m going to kick him in the balls.
Filed under: Personal, Randomness, books | Tags: Chuck Palahniuk, Fight Club, quotes, random
In all it’s randomness…this all makes complete sense to me.
“What I want is to be needed. What I need is to be indispensable to somebody. Who I need is somebody that will eat up all my free time, my ego, my attention. Somebody addicted to me. A mutual addiction.”
— Chuck Palahniuk
For those of you that don’t know…that’s the guy that wrote Fight Club (among other things). I LOOOOOVE FIGHT CLUB!
“In a world where billions believe their deity conceived a mortal child with a virgin human, it’s stunning how little imagination most people display.”
— Chuck Palahniuk (Rant: An Oral Biography of Buster Casey)
AND THIS! is one of my favorite movie quotes…for whatever reason.
“Only after disaster can we be resurrected. It’s only after you’ve lost everything that you’re free to do anything. Nothing is static, everything is evolving, everything is falling apart.”
— Chuck Palahniuk (Fight Club)
AND THIS! Is oooh so true and explains alot about how I feel right now:
“If you don’t know what you want,” the doorman said, “you end up with a lot you don’t.”
— Chuck Palahniuk (Fight Club: A Novel)
Last but not least…THIS!
“People have to really suffer before they can risk doing what they love.”
— Chuck Palahniuk
I wonder how long I’m going to suffer before I take my life into my own hands and stop being miserable. I want too, but I think that takes courage that I have yet to find.
Honesty=Freedom
They all made me feel this way…except for TWO of them. One I still talk to and the other is gone…
I know I’m not the only person to feel this way.
Found here.
