As you all know I have been watching a TON of Sex and The City lately. Yeah…I’m poor. I don’t have cable. But I do have my own apartment, so it evens out.
Oh and I don’t want to hear anything about my love for Sex and The City and my love for feminism. I know they do not necessarily belong in the same category. So, leave it alone.
Anyway….
The ladies were having brunch or whatever it is they call it, and this topic came up for like 3 seconds. It came from the HBO version of me, Miranda.
I do not have it verbatim, but she said something about it being unfair that older, single women get to be old maids and spinsters. The opposite being that men get to be playboys…and something else. Lets use lady-killers, ladies man, heavy hitter, pleasure seeker, etc. Women, on the other hand, are described as goody-goodies or prudes.
Notice anything?
Why is it that older, single women have the terrible labels? We’re punished, we’re prudish. The guys are “bachelors.” The only time we are allowed to use the term “bachelorette” is at the party our girlfriends throw us right before we take the plunge and get married. For it to even be considered a bachelorette party we have be drunk and acting like we’re in a Girls Gone Wild video. I do not get it. Of course if you act like anything but a prude, you’re a slut, right? Where is the middle ground?
I do realize that I am hitting on a very old subject. It’s the double standard. Who had the idea that women should be called old maids or even…prudes, just because we are unmarried? It’s not a curse to be single. For me it is a pleasure. Sure, I get lonely every now and then. At the same time I am happy with my situation. There is nothing lame about being 25 and single, just like there’s nothing lame about being 45 and single. Embrace it.
So, I want you all to come up with a different word for single women, younger or older. I’m single, but I am definitely not a goody-goody or a prude. That is your challenge. Come up with something new for all the beautiful single women. If guys can be heavy hitters, we can be………._________________________. Fill in the blank. And man-eater is not one of them. I don’t care what Nelly Furtado says.
